People make it look so idyllic when they have a new puppy.
It looks like they are having the time of their lives and that they could not be happier. Social media makes it very easy to disguise what is actually going on behind the scenes because we have a tendency to only post cute photos of how gorgeous our puppies are (and they are).
But the reality can be very different.
Puppies are great, don’t get me wrong. I mean, who can resist those puppy dog eyes and puppy breath :))
But there is a reality to raising a puppy, especially getting through the first few months. It is not all sunshine and roses.
On very rare occasions, a puppy may click from the get go on where to go potty and they will sleep for 7 hours straight without crying once but these puppies are few and far between.
By far the majority of puppies are heartbroken at leaving there mother and siblings. They are introduced to new people and are taken to a new house.
Their world has been turned upside down. They are confused and unsure of what is happening to them. It is very unsettling for them.
My friend is busy going through this now. Her Cavalier King Charles Spaniel puppy is only 11 weeks old.
She got him when he was 8 weeks old. He is a real softy with a gorgeous character.
He is not a difficult puppy but she has two other Cavalier King Charles Spaniels who have not adjusted as quickly as what she would have liked. The one dog growls at the puppy while the other one just totally ignores it.
On top of this, she is feeling like the new puppy is not bonding with her.
She has to get up in the night to take him out to potty and he has already needed to see the Vet because he had an abscess on his face. (He is fine now)
She actually reached the point about a week ago, after only having him for one week, where she was considering giving him back to the breeder and firmly believed that she had made a huge mistake. She had hit a low point and I fully understand why.
Luckily she shared with me what she was feeling and we had a good heart to heart discussion.
I begged her to just give him and the other two dogs’ time to adjust. I tried to reassure her that he was bonding with her but was probably feeling very unsure of himself. All he needed was more time.
I said to her that he will learn to hold his pee for the whole night and he will give her a good night’s sleep eventually.
All he needed was time and patience.
She decided to go away for 10 days and take the new puppy with her so that he could bond with her. Her thinking was that if he did not bond during those 10 days then she will return him to the breeder. I agreed with her.
She left her other two Cavalier King Charles Spaniels with me.
She is now half way through her vacation and is having the time of her life. She is playing with Cooper and is constantly sending me photos of the two of them together. They are having a blast. They are bonding :))
It looks like it is going to be a huge success.
I know that because she finally introduced Cooper to people on her Facebook page.
She would not do that before as she was not convinced that she would keep him.
Why am I telling you all this?
Because I want you to know that it might be tough in the beginning and you might have second thoughts about keeping your puppy but it WILL and DOES get better.
You must remember that you and your new puppy need time to adjust to each other.
If there are other animals in the house then they also need space to accept this new intruder into their house. There might even be a bit of jealousy.
Your puppy will be missing its siblings and mother and will be exposed to a whole new world with totally new experiences.
This is huge for such a young pup.
It is daunting for every person and animal involved.
The puppy needs to be fully trained which takes time and real effort from you. If you put in the work to train him while he is still a young puppy then you will reap the benefits of a well adjusted, social and awesome companion.
But all of this takes time and effort. You cannot expect your puppy to be fully toilet trained in a few days.
He will chew items that he is not supposed to chew because he needs relief when he is teething.
You will be on the business end of those sharp needle-like teeth but this can be stopped with proper training.
They will have accidents in the house which will become less and less when they eventually click on where they have to go potty.
There will be tears of frustration at the lack of sleep when your puppy does not want to be in there crate and discouragement when the training seems to not be working.
But all of this is temporary and you need to be real with your expectations.
Be consistent and keep doing what you are doing. There is an end in sight and there is a rainbow at the end of the tunnel.
In a few months’ time you will look back and wish they could be puppies again.
Enjoy the early days with them as they grow up so quickly and before you know it they are a couple of years old already.
Puppies are great as you get to shape and mold them into what you want them to be.
Puppy cuddles are the best and puppy breath is awesome!
Enjoy them and Love them!!
That is all anyone can ask for.
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And if you need someone to just listen to you or guide you, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I will gladly listen and help where I can :))